a letter to our surrogate.

To our GC,

There aren’t nearly enough words, gestures, or expressions of gratitude that could ever show how truly thankful Matt & I are to be on this surrogacy journey with you.

While we have struggled with infertility for five years and endured ten IVF cycles, nine IVF transfers, five egg retrievals, and six miscarriages – you were always at my side. Checking in on me, praying for us, sending flowers, food, etc. You genuinely loved, prayed for, and cherished each baby that I carried.

And when you knew it was time for Matt & I to choose a different path to parenthood, you didn’t once hesitate in offering to carry a child for us. I find my mind is still blown by your generosity and grace to help fulfill our dream of becoming parents.

I want you to know, that while things have been hard for me to be on “this” side of things and not being the one going through the typical motions of IVF, I know in my heart that this is the right direction we needed to go in. I am amazed at your calmness on this journey, and it has helped me tremendously when I feel like I want to pull my hair out.

When Matt & I endured our most recent loss in June of this year, my heart and body knew that we couldn’t continue anymore fertility treatments. My body has been put through hell the past five years – being pumped full of meds, surgeries, and six miscarriages. My hope had been lost and my faith had been tested.

And just like every other loss, you were right there to pick me back up. I’ve always cherished our friendship, but now, it’s a whole new, deeper level. You’ve restored my hope. My faith. My joy.

Thank you for giving Matt & I an opportunity to be parents and helping us build our family. Thank you for loving us, trusting us, and going through all of this for us. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.

With your love, courage, and faith 2018 will be a big year❤️


  1. I will always have tremendous respect for anyone willing to do this for another. I suffered 5 miscarriages and was on the verge of going this route as well. Even had a friend lined up who offered to carry for me. We decided to give it one last try with a bunch of new treatment, and to my amazement – it worked and I was able to finally have a little girl in July. But man, I was there…at that door…ready and waiting to go down that road. I understand how it feels. I understand all of the emotions that go along with it. And I have so much respect for you to be able to go down that road and allow another to step in for you. It’s a hard pill to swallow as a woman. I know what it’s like when you feel like your body has failed you. But it takes a superwoman to be able to pick herself up, dust herself off and allow the help when needed. You are a superwoman! And so is your carrier. Many blessings to you and yours this 2018. This is your year, mama. ❤

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